As it turns out, you just might have goofed up, made a mistake of some kind. So now what?
Your employer will no doubt have something to say, or will do something, or tell you to do something, or……discipline you!
When you say this word, discipline, what comes to mind? Anger? Consequences? Punishment? Fear? Guilt? Losing your job? Docked pay?
What are you thinking as you imagine being disciplined by your employer?
Your employer addresses the goof up, discusses the better alternative, asks if you have any questions, and compliments you on something you recently did well. She encourages you and maybe even smiles. And then she leaves you to take care of the problem on your own, and move on.
Imagine that your employer gives you a choice. You made the mistake and now you must choose what comes next. You have to make the decision between being disciplined or managed. Which will it be? Will discipline or management help you learn a new behavior more easily? Which one gives you more respect for your employer? Do you want to be more honest with yourself and make the changes you need to make without anger, fear, or defensiveness?
An overly disciplined child emerges as an angry, limited adult.
A well managed child develops self discipline and becomes an adult filled with courage and creativity, and the ability to assess personal behavior. This child also develops a powerful internal compass for self guidance and self sufficiency. Maturity.
What type of adult do you want your child to become and which approach will you choose for parenting your children and helping them with their decisions and behaviors?
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