Do you sometimes feel like your children are running things and you are powerless to change it? Do you wonder how other parents get results and your children just don’t take you seriously? Do you cringe and feel guilty when you assign a consequence and then find yourself backing down? You might be practicing pushover parenting. [Read more…]
Children need a secure base. Loss of that secure base equates to trauma for the child. Without any control over their lives, children’s happiness and hope lie completely in our hands so, if this hasn’t put you into a panic I don’t know what will. But, no need for panic because, raising children can be easier than you think.
What about all those parenting books out there, though? Nothing simple needs so many manuals, right? I don’t have an answer for that but, I do know that the foundation for raising your children can be boiled down to three simple concepts. [Read more…]
I read Next Avenue which is a site devoted to topics on aging, longevity, vitality, estate planning, generally anything people in the last third of their lives might find relevant. The more I read their articles, however, the more I see things that could easily interest anyone, at any age of adulthood. After all, we’re all aging and why wait to learn some of this good stuff? Like, ways to make life easier. [Read more…]
It’s just tax season so stop pulling your hair out! IRS, taxes, audits, new laws every year, deadlines. Any of this can give just about anyone reason to worry, but I’ve noticed that worrying about tax season makes things far worse than actually dealing with it. So, banish any fear and procrastination and read on to see how to keep it simple and get it done using these tax season tips. [Read more…]
Teens crave peer acceptance and they get it through conformity. But, the idea of teens and conformity, often attributed to the dreaded peer pressure, makes most parents’ hair stand on end, if not fall right out on the pillow during sleepless nights.
I’ve seen the battles right in my office. Parent – “Think for yourself.” “Be yourself, not who you think other kids want you to be.” Teen sitting sullenly with no eye contact. Parent – “Who cares what other kids wear/think/do?”
Your child cares. [Read more…]
I’m a proud Boomer grandparent and I can tell you that grandparenting has changed! We Boomer grandparents take grandparenting very seriously. Indeed! We grandparent like it’s an extreme sport. I call it…Ultimate Grandparenting! [Read more…]
I just finished reading Free-Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy. At first, I wasn’t going to read it, thinking, “Yeah, yeah, I get it. Kids need to be outside more, in calming fresh air. It helps them sleep, and do better in school. Less screen time is always better. What more is there to say?”
Well, for some good reason, I bought the book and read it anyway. Whoa! Am I glad I did! This book isn’t just about giving your kids more freedom. It’s also about giving yourself a break from all the worrying that seems to define good parenting these days.
No matter how much we focus on our parenting, there come times when we wonder, “How are my kids doing?” Those moments might appear when a challenging incident occurs, such as a public tantrum, or the dreaded minor stealing event. We might also torture ourselves with doubts about our children’s emerging character traits when we see someone else’s child handling a situation seemingly better than our own. Worst of all, these questions can howl in the middle of the night for….well, just because. Night yaps. That’s what they called it in one episode of West Wing. Good name for it? Relax. You can breathe now. There are solutions for these doubts!
Have you ever tried to waste less food? How does that go for you? I always feel like I could do better even though we really don’t waste shameful amounts of food at all. That being said, as I write this post it’s summer and it’s food bonanza season, with lots of beautiful fresh food in the fridge, overflowing gardens, and loaded produce shelves. Our kitchen is bursting at the seams, and that kicked in my perfectionism. Now I’m sprinting off on a “waste less food” marathon ….again.
How about some relief? I found some high quality links to topics that most parents encounter on and off as they raise children. Topics like how to keep your family healthy, how to maximize calm for you and your children, information on interesting books worth the time it takes to read them, and more. Topics that can get in your head and bother you until you figure out how to get relief.
These links will also be added to the master Resources list for ParentWhiz. Enjoy! [Read more…]
“How are your children’s chores going at home?” Whoa! When I ask this question during a session with parents it brings on a crackling conversation with a wild range of responses. It starts out pretty positive – ” Oh. Chores. Pretty good actually.” Then – “Well, except for (insert chore here)”. And finally – “To tell the truth, chores are a mess in our house.”
At this point the discussion falls apart and out comes the frustration, anger, and maybe even some tears. So, as you read this, what are you thinking about chores in your own home? Would you like your children’s chores to go better? [Read more…]
Problem solving starts early in life and every one of us has had the problem solving dilemma of a booger. In the nose. Now on the finger. Now what! First you try the secretive flick. Flick flick. Still there. Flick. Flick. A little change of strategy, more force. Still there. Now you are moving to the roll-a-tiny-booger-ball strategy. Roll it up enough that it starts to dry a bit and go back to the flick.