Parenting and life get complicated and the stress and pressure can get so high that we end up feeling like everything matters. But, fortunately, some things don’t matter. Here is a simple list of ideas to help you refocus and make your own list of things that matter and things that don’t. [Read more…]
Children need a secure base. Loss of that secure base equates to trauma for the child. Without any control over their lives, children’s happiness and hope lie completely in our hands so, if this hasn’t put you into a panic I don’t know what will. But, no need for panic because, raising children can be easier than you think.
What about all those parenting books out there, though? Nothing simple needs so many manuals, right? I don’t have an answer for that but, I do know that the foundation for raising your children can be boiled down to three simple concepts. [Read more…]
I just finished reading Free-Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy. At first, I wasn’t going to read it, thinking, “Yeah, yeah, I get it. Kids need to be outside more, in calming fresh air. It helps them sleep, and do better in school. Less screen time is always better. What more is there to say?”
Well, for some good reason, I bought the book and read it anyway. Whoa! Am I glad I did! This book isn’t just about giving your kids more freedom. It’s also about giving yourself a break from all the worrying that seems to define good parenting these days.
“How are your children’s chores going at home?” Whoa! When I ask this question during a session with parents it brings on a crackling conversation with a wild range of responses. It starts out pretty positive – ” Oh. Chores. Pretty good actually.” Then – “Well, except for (insert chore here)”. And finally – “To tell the truth, chores are a mess in our house.”
At this point the discussion falls apart and out comes the frustration, anger, and maybe even some tears. So, as you read this, what are you thinking about chores in your own home? Would you like your children’s chores to go better? [Read more…]
Winter makes me think about books. Well, it makes me think more about books than, maybe, other times of the year. But really, I think about books and reading all the time. I know why, though. It goes way back for me, when I was a child and I remember it all.
Both of my parents had a distinctly reverent relationship with books and reading, and I’m pretty sure that got passed on to me. We three children grew up surrounded by books. Shelves everywhere and fresh books any time we thought there was a reason. And it didn’t have to be a very good reason, Any excuse to buy a new book, or go to the library, was good enough. [Read more…]
As it turns out, you just might have goofed up, made a mistake of some kind. So now what?
Your employer will no doubt have something to say, or will do something, or tell you to do something, or……discipline you! [Read more…]