Do you sometimes feel like your children are running things and you are powerless to change it? Do you wonder how other parents get results and your children just don’t take you seriously? Do you cringe and feel guilty when you assign a consequence and then find yourself backing down? You might be practicing pushover parenting. [Read more…]
Children need a secure base. Loss of that secure base equates to trauma for the child. Without any control over their lives, children’s happiness and hope lie completely in our hands so, if this hasn’t put you into a panic I don’t know what will. But, no need for panic because, raising children can be easier than you think.
What about all those parenting books out there, though? Nothing simple needs so many manuals, right? I don’t have an answer for that but, I do know that the foundation for raising your children can be boiled down to three simple concepts. [Read more…]
Teens crave peer acceptance and they get it through conformity. But, the idea of teens and conformity, often attributed to the dreaded peer pressure, makes most parents’ hair stand on end, if not fall right out on the pillow during sleepless nights.
I’ve seen the battles right in my office. Parent – “Think for yourself.” “Be yourself, not who you think other kids want you to be.” Teen sitting sullenly with no eye contact. Parent – “Who cares what other kids wear/think/do?”
Your child cares. [Read more…]
No matter how much we focus on our parenting, there come times when we wonder, “How are my kids doing?” Those moments might appear when a challenging incident occurs, such as a public tantrum, or the dreaded minor stealing event. We might also torture ourselves with doubts about our children’s emerging character traits when we see someone else’s child handling a situation seemingly better than our own. Worst of all, these questions can howl in the middle of the night for….well, just because. Night yaps. That’s what they called it in one episode of West Wing. Good name for it? Relax. You can breathe now. There are solutions for these doubts!